About Heather

Heather Kopp is the author of  Sober Mercies: How Love Caught Up with a Christian Drunk (Hachette/Jericho books). She blogs at HeatherKopp.com and at  The Huffington Post.

Heather is also the author of more than two-dozen non-fiction titles. She began writing in her early twenties with magazine articles and a column for a Christian woman’s magazine. After writing several books of her own, she moved on to write numerous books with her husband, and to edit or collaborate with other authors.

These days, Heather is returning to publishing after a personal hiatus during which time she focused on her recovery from alcoholism and on her spiritual connection to God and others. Today, Heather is especially interested in raising awareness in the Christian community about topics related to addiction and recovery.

Heather loves to read books by authors who are willing to take risks to write honestly about their problems, doubts, and questions regarding their spiritual journey. She is particularly fond of authors who frequently find themselves baffled by God even as they fall more in love with Him.

Heather loves novels, yoga, recovery meetings, biking or hiking, visiting her grown kids in Oregon, and having spiritually stimulating discussions with people from all walks of life and faith. She and her husband have five grown children and make their home in Colorado Springs, CO.

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On a more personal note, here are some things you don’t really need to know about me, but will if you read this blog:

  • I am a huge fan of people who hang out in church basements and drink weak coffee and tell each other honest stories about how they got so broken.
  • While some people dream of dinner with Ghandi or Tea with Mother Teresa, I always wanted to go back in time to share a bottle of good red wine with Jesus.
  • I spent most of my career writing books or helping people write books until I got too drunk every night to remember the next day what I did the night before and so I stopped writing anything at all for a long time. Now, my brain is less pickled and I am ready to write something again and so I have .
  • I live in Colorado Springs, which used to be the last place I ever wanted to live because there were too many Christians here who might know I was supposed to be a Christian, too, and I worried that I wouldn’t be able to keep my drinking a big secret. Now that I’m in recovery I like it here a lot and I just tell everybody all the shameful things I did as a drunk that hurt my pride so there won’t be so much of it left to protect, and it seems better that way.
  • I am occasionally inclined to mild profanity when things go wrong and to saying “Praise God,” when they go right, although I consider both of these bad habits I’m trying to break. Not because life can’t be crap and God isn’t good, but because it’s more complicated than that, and I think since I’m a writer I should use my words better.
  • I have a little black bat-faced dog named Edmund who after seven years still barks wildly at me every time I come through my own front door. “You belong to me, Stupid,” I tell him. “You’re supposed to bark at strangers.” But the truth is that I am not good at barking at strangers, either. I’m generally all nice and sweet to them while I bark the most at the people I belong to. I belong, at least in part, to a handsome, groovy, God-loving, genius book editor named David Kopp. We’re been married for seventeen years and have five grown children between us., two hers and three his, none ourse, and none I should talk about here too much because to tell you even the smallest details of their amazing accomplishments and beautiful souls would be bragging.
  • This is Edmund

Me and my husband, Dave


Comments

  1. Catherine heustis says:

    so excited to have found your blog! seems like we are in the same boat can’t wait to read more! :-)

  2. Anonymous says:

    just finished your book but wondered why you didn’t thank your sponsor Kate?

  3. I googled your name, and found your blog after I saw a post on FB from InTouch Ministries. “Sober Boots” is a great name, and it’s not only alcohol we can hide in our “boots”.

  4. Congratulations on your courage and strength to find your Sober Boots :)

  5. Sierra Holt says:

    As I read through Sober Mercies, I found myself laughing and crying at the same time. I finished the last sentence just to turn back to page one and read it all over again. Because like you, I am a Christian. I have been my whole life. Like you, I have 5 kids, three from a previous marriage, and two with my husband now. And like you….I am a raging alcoholic. I have been to rehab twice, once for a month and another time just to detox for a few days. But shamefully, to no avail. I find your honesty completely refreshing and full of hope. It was not by chance I came across this inspiring memoir (probably while drunk shopping on the internet). I love this book and want my husband, parents, friends to read it so they might gain at least a little insight as to what is going on in this crazy little brain of mine and the constant grappling with the Lord, in whom I love and believe in whole-heartedly. So all this to say, definitely one of my favorite books, top ten. Don’t ever stop writing! Oh…and it’s nice to be able to match a face to Dave and Edmund!

    • Sierra, I’m so glad you wrote me this note. Sorry I’m so late to reply. You sound like such a great person and someone I would love to know as a friend. Thanks so much for the encouraging words about my writing and my book. I hope you do find a solid path of recovery. Don’t get discouraged before the miracle happens, as they say. Keep coming back. I can tell just by this small note that you have so much to give other women! Seriously. God bless, Heather

  6. John Coleman says:

    Golly! So glad you know the high of being “freshly pressed,” but for selfish reasons: I found your blog. I’m a Lutheran pastor who appreciates your point of view. Peace and blessings, John

  7. Hi Heather, i don’t know if this song will speak to you…but hearing your Blog name, and knowing you are involved with God- i wanted to share it with you. Because i often think i hear Him singing the lyrics…..

  8. Hi Heather, I have nominated you for a Sunshine Award. Read more about it here: http://unpickled.wordpress.com/2014/03/13/sunshine-blogger-award/

  9. Heather, I know you don’t have time to do blogging awards, but I am nominating you anyway for your thoughtful and down to earth approach to your life. If you ever want to accept it, you can find the instructions here: http://inmysecretgarden.wordpress.com/2014/03/08/a-blogging-award-from-rachel-carrera-novelist-the-field-of-flowers-award/ I will still keep you on my award page because I think your blog will encourage others.

  10. Today, I went to the beach with my kids.
    I found a sea shell and gave it to my 4 year old daughter and
    said “You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear.” She put the shell to her ear and screamed.
    There was a hermit crab inside and it pinched her ear.
    She never wants to go back! LoL I know this is totally off topic but I had to tell someone!

  11. http://theinquisitiveintrovert.wordpress.com/sweet-blogging-award/

    I’ve nominated you for the Super Sweet Blogger Award. The link will take you to the explanation, and the rules.

    • Susan, forgive my delay in getting back to you on this! I am SO honored that you thought of me, but I’m not able to participate in these awards because I don’t have time, really. But I always hope the person who nominates me understand how much I appreciate them. So thank you, thank you!!

      On Sun, Jul 28, 2013 at 3:42 PM, Heather Kopp

  12. I was wondering if you ever considered changing the page layout of your site?
    Its very well written; I love what youve got to say.

    But maybe you could a little more in the way of
    content so people could connect with it better.
    Youve got an awful lot of text for only having 1 or two images.
    Maybe you could space it out better?

  13. kandacerather says:

    Hi Heather! Crazy story-My husband and I are going through Praying the Bible for Your Marriage for a 3rd time. (Yes, we’ve had it since its publication) Just yesterday I said to my husband, “I wonder why we have not heard anymore about David and Heather Kopp. I hope they are okay.” I don’t even know why I said that as we only know who you are through this devotion. We are in recovery ourselves and stumbled into the grace of God like none other over a year ago. We are now mercy & grace junkies as our marriage has been restored and made new. (Just celebrated our 24th anniv.) My husband texted me today with your blog address and I was so encouraged, Heather! I can’t tell you how thankful I am for the hope you continue to bring others. Shortly after I confessed to having an affiar with a Pastor in our church, our husband went to our book shelf and pulled your book out. It’s one book that never makes it to the garage sale pile. :-)
    I love the title of your book and will be ordering it! I am getting ready to launch our blog/website called Severe Mercy. It will provide hope and encouragement for those who are trying to survive an affair-for both parties. This is a huge step of faith for both of us but we are clinging to Jesus like never before! Oh, I know there is so much we could talk about and just from what little I read, we are on similar journeys.

    • Wow! I can’t believe this. So cool that you guys are still using that book–I’m so glad to hear it, as I have prayed that God would keep working through those books despite my failures. That really blessed me to hear. I am so humbled that you would share some of your story with me. It is really powerful. I so wish you lived nearby. I loved your phrase “mercy and grace junkies.” Yep, that’s us, too. So great to meet you! I hope you’ll keep in touch. I agree that we are on similar journeys, so I hope we get to meet one day. H

      On Thu, Jun 27, 2013 at 10:29 PM, Heather Kopp

      • kandacerather says:

        Would love to have coffee with you! Don’t tempt me to fly there. :-) Nathan and I have been on a powerful and lonely journey as a couple. We needed to shut everything else down in our lives and focus on rebuilding our faith and family. God has met us in the sweestest ways in our deepest sorrow. Before my fall, I was heavily involved in ministry (which is an addiction of another kind) and when I lost it all, I met mercy and grace in away I had never known. I did not know who I was apart from my relationships with others and did not realize my identity was deeply embedded in the approval of man. (Losing that approval was the severe mercy of God birthed from His love for me and became a precious gift) I discovered I can surivive without the accolades and admiration of man! :-) What freedom to serve Him and Him alone.

        The Lord is bringing us up from the wilderness leaning on our Beloved and though we have no idea what we are doing most days, we know He is leading the way!

        As you know, Heather, the Lord wastes nothing. You and your husband’s words in the devotional we are reading are the Lord’s. He lives outside the pages of a book but His Spirit brings life to them when we are seeking Him.

    • Isn’t it wonderful how, in spite of all of our human frailties, the LORD brings us to Him when we allow him, and his grace leads us to forgiveness of ourselves and others, and restores.
      So pleased for kandacerather.

      • kandacerather says:

        Thank you laruspress! He truly is the hero in all our stories. So kind, forgiving and merciful,

  14. Dave is real cute, Heather!!!!

  15. Hi Heather,
    I am so glad that I found this blog. Now I don’t have to relish Sober Mercies a few pages at a time as I can always come here to get more of your delightful and honest writing. I find Sober Mercies perhaps funnier than I might have a couple of years ago as then I was still drinking heavily. Now I often laugh to myself in a sort of “been there, done that” way. And read passages out loud to my wife in bed who, while she finds them amusing, is not given given to laughing out loud at the situations. I also use your book as a resource at a virtual recovery group that I moderate at CrazySexyLife. So thank you, Heather!
    -Jonathan

    • Jonathan, wow. Thanks SO much for this. I am so thrilled to hear you’re reading Sober Mercies. I keep being surprised by how many men are reading the book. SO cool. I am so glad you find it amusing. It’s supposed to be, you know? AT least we get to laugh in retrospect, and the humor is so much about the fact that we all identify so much with insanity of the past.Thanks for letting know you’re out there, Jonathan. And thanks for spreading the word about the book. I’m hoping God will use it a lot. So nice to “meet” you and I hope you’ll keep reading the blog and stay in touch. Best, Heather

      On Tue, May 21, 2013 at 5:49 PM, Heather Kopp

  16. Heather, I have nominated you for The Versatile Blogger Award! Congratulations! Please visit this link for the rules: http://pegrichards.wordpress.com/2013/04/27/nominated-for-the-versatile-blogger-award/

  17. destamae says:

    Just found your blog…love it! Looking forward to reading more and looking more on your site and FB page. I too have a fb page connected with my blog. All about recovery and grace. I’m no author though- just my thoughts on this crazy recovery journey. Blessings!!

  18. Hi Heather–wow, what a fabulous blog. I’m on the verge of tears with everything I’m reading here–lots of familiar stuff. We are blessed to be redeemed–no more shame, condemnation (and yet they resurface, don’t they?). I did get a chuckle out of the mild swearing when things don’t go well, “praise God” when they do–yep, I do the same thing. Walking in grace–it’s the only sane way to live. Bless you.

    • Your comment made my day, you know. I wonder if your name is Jael? I have a niece named Jael and I never hear of other people with that name. I love what you said here, and I hope you’ll keep coming back! H

      On Wed, Apr 10, 2013 at 10:45 PM, Heather Kopp

  19. Hi Heather, I found you through Denise (Inspired2Ignite). We have quite a bit in common, and I’m looking forward to following your journey. Thanks for being so transparent…makes all the difference in the world, literally. :)

  20. The Commonzense of Saint James says:

    Thanks for the follow. Blessings~David

  21. Hi Heather, I know it’s late but I nominated you for the “Blog Of The Year” award. Check it out:

    http://writersfield.wordpress.com/2013/01/04/blog-of-the-year-2012-award/

    • What a wonderful compliment! Thank you so much. I wish I could participate fully–but I’ve had to decline other awards and don’t want to say yes to some and not others. I hope you understand and aren’t offended. I’m SO grateful, and so if you’re goal is to encourage, you sure did that. Many blessings, Heather

  22. Love that you share part of you here, love that you are recovering and journeying on with God, love that you speak so openly about things.

  23. totally digging this! thanks for stopping by so i could find ya! and i can relate to the language– i *loathe* my sometimes potty mouth! for me it’s an anger thing. but God ain’t finished with me yet. ;-)

  24. Found your blog via Rachelle’s post. I’ve subscribed and catching up on all of your posts. I am enjoying the honesty in the stories on your blog. I have a blog where I write book reviews and stories about my life, quite candidly. I didn’t realize there was any other way to write. My followers leave comments to that affect. Continue the wonderful writing. I look forward to reading more. Donna

    • I want to finish my thhguot here. If God treated us fairly Jesus would have never died on the cross. and we would have never been offered salvation. I praise God that He loves me, He never fails me and He goes to plan B and on. Look ho w He blessed Israel, they sinned and went away from God countless times, but He was faithful and loved them any way. Romans 5:8 But God commended His love toward us, in that while we were sinners Christ died for us. Praise be to God!

  25. Hi Heather,
    I read your guest blog on Rachelle’ Gardner’s site. Your reasons for balking rung true to me. I am a newbie to writing in general and definitely to blogging. I have not found The Sweet Spot yet for telling my story but relating to my readers. It’s a big struggle for me and I’d welcome ideas or suggestions….

    On another note…both my parents were alcoholics so I can relate to the after effects of the behavior and homelife of it. My addiction has mainly been perfectionism. Looks good on the outside (sometimes) but is destructive in its own way.

    Kudos to you for your recovery and reaching out to others. God’s grace and love to you.
    ~Denise

  26. Hi Heather

    What a great Blog – my friend Deb sent me the link as she thought I may find it interesting :)
    Thankyou for your honesty, I look forward to following and catching up on your previous writings.
    I too am in Recovery, and thank God every day for my sobrierty and the loving people he has put in my path to encourage and help me on my journey.
    God bless you as you continue to share your experience, strength & hope – and long may we keep going to those dusty old church basements with weak coffee!!!

    Love,

    Penny x

  27. Cynthia Teter says:

    Heather,
    There is so much I want to share with you. I want to share because your writing blog is Real, and hit home. I saw your blog “Why God Can’t Be Trusted” on Facebook. I am sharing your blog with my fb friends and family. What you don’t know about me is that I lost my mother in 2010 from alcohol and substance abuse, she was 55. I am the only professing Christian (1993 accepted Christ in my heart) in my family, and I did what you described in your blog; lots of prayers, lots of arguments between God and I. I still find myself weeping over her death, and the unknown. I have my father who is now taking the same path as my mother. I have a hard time explaining all their choices to my own growing children. I continue to Trust God to be faithful. I really like what you said about God not on strings to be a puppet. God has drawn me very close because of these life stories. I appreciate your honesty. I will be following your blogs. God Keep You and Bless You.

    • Cynthia, thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to me. I am sorry about your mother. So sad. I resonate with your loss so much. I am so glad that some things I have written have resonated. I love hearing that. I am holding you in prayer right now. I hope I’ll hear from you again. God bless you, too. Hugs, Heather

  28. Cheryl Montgomery says:

    Hi Heather,
    My name is Cheryl. My best friend sent me a link to your blog. I only know you through what I have read-but you are a lot like her. :-)
    I’m not a big blog reader-mostly because I find them annoying and not very honest.
    Your’s is a breath of fresh honest air.
    My best friend has been sober for 8 years, my husband has been sober for 7 years and my oldest son has been sober for about 3 months. I’m not an alcoholic, but addiction has been a huge part of my life.
    Forgiveness has been THE key to being married for 26 years. It’s been a hard and bumpy road-but worth every battle we have fought.
    I love what you wrote about how weird it feels to say how thankful you are for all of God’s “blessings”. I was thinking the very same thing yesterday as we have watched God answer prayers and bless our lives in amazing ways. I don’t believe we have done anything to deserve it. I’m not a person who “expects” God to bless me…and I am humbly overwhelmingly thankful when He does.
    I live in Florida-but used to live in Colorado Springs :-) I LOVE Colorado! Praying for the day that God brings us back there!
    I plan to keep reading, thanks for sharing so honestly.

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